I am having a boyfriend for the last 2 years. He loves me too much and takes care of me. Just six months before i got a new friend (boy), who was my boyfriend's friend and turned out to be my best friend. I already told him about my boyfriend, so that nothing wrong happens in future. I always liked to talk with him too much. I used to prefer him over my boyfriend whether it was a matter of talking on phone or of going anywhere. Due to all these thing it appeared to my friend as if i love him and was more happy with him and he also fell in love with me. Now he loves me madly. He cant live without me. On knowing this, i just tried to convince him that this is not love. You are always my best friend. You are mistaken. But after few days he made me realize how much he loves me. According to him i am his life. On seeing his love, now i also started loving him. what should i do now? My boyfriend says that for my happiness he will marry some other girl and my friend says that he will not marry any other girl for the entire life. How can i cheat my lovely boyfriend? and if i say no to my friend he just seems gonna die.

Ok this is a bit of a predicament.

I really think that the first, utmost important thing in all of this is to figure out what you want. Because once you take a decision, it had better be the right one or it will be much to late to undo the damage.

If you decide you want your friend, make sure that you are doing so of your own accord. Ask yourself, do you really love him based on several factors or are do you like the idea of this new guy giving you attention?He is also trying to show you how much you may love him too. If you are still sure that he is the one to choose, then you must must must break up with your boyfriend. He totally does not deserve to be in a relationship where your heart is not in it. And yes, he will probably be distraught and heartbroken but this is life. I would rather be with a guy who loves me than one who is staying with me just to make sure I don't have a breakdown. And all this talk of him not marrying another girl ever, we all think this when we are heartbroken, but people move on and so will he.

If you decide to stick with your bf then you must tell your friend that you have thought about your decision and you are sure and that the limits in your friendship need to be identified. You must make clear that certain things between the two of you are inappropriate in the future especially if you have had to ask yourself this question anyway. And maintain a good level of distance, or you will find yourself in this position again and again till perhaps both guys will get fed up.

It sounds to me that if you prefer talking to your friend more and going out with him, that your boyfriend cannot mean as much as a bf should, because I know that my boyfriend would be the number one guy on my list to speak to or go out with, even though I love my friends, we have this desire to speak to the person we are dating more than anyone.

Hope this has helped x x x