My boyfriend has been a bit depressed and has gone off sex. We live far away from each other but I'm seeing him Monday so am hoping to get him in the mood. Last night we watched some porn together over the internet but he said it only helped "a bit". He still didn't get really horny.

Can anyone think of anything I can buy or do on Monday to get him horny? I think he'll ask me to try. I'm open to anything!

If he is depressed, it seems as though he needs a caring friend to talk to and feel close to more than he needs someone trying to 'sex him up'. It is nice that you care enough to want to help him but the answer is probably to help tackle the depression that is putting him off sex. You are a kind and thoughtful person who has human value far beyond being the sex-distraction for some troubled soul - You have the potential to help cure the trouble. Much as your question fuels my male fantasies, I fear you may be taking the wrong approach and devaluing yourself in the process.