the last couple of wks,Iv been goin 2a deaf club 2meet new people etc.last night,a girl the same age as me went.we got chatting&it turns out she's from the caribbean&married.she had not long moved 2the area etc so was lookin 2make new friends.she seemed nice.she gave me her mobile no which seemed ok until she sent me a text 2mins after givin me her no sayin'do u want 2come back 2mine 4coffee&private chat?'.I didn't feel comfortable cos after she'd asked me that,she was rubbing my arm&sayin I was a nice friendly girl who would be a good friend etc.I just wanted 2go home but she lived near me so I couldn't avoid not goin 2hers.we got near hers&her husband was actually standin at the door with 2cups of tea!I was really feelin out of my comfort
zone by now but sort of didn't want 2offend her etc.so I went in2 her house.I spent the next hr with her showin me her photo albums(not really what I felt like doing!)whilst her husband who couldnt understand sign language or what his wife was sayin was walkin back&forth through the house!I don't know what was wrong with me but I really felt out of my comfort zone&even started thinkin I was goin to get drugged or something(crazy I know but it's how I felt!my gut instincts were just goin in2 overdrive!)I then got up 2leave&she said they would drop me off in car.I told her she really didn't need 2as I only lived up the road(2min walk)I told her husband the same&he responded rather angrily 'wel u'd better tell her that!'&he walked back in the house!i explained I only lived 2streets away&she gave me a kiss on the cheek,a hug then went home.I was feelin really freaked out(why?I don't know)I texted her to say I got home etc&the next day she texted but I didn't reply as I had loads on at home etc.she then sent me a text sayin she was sad cos I hadn't replied!am I right to be feelin wary&cautious or am I just being too 'scared' with meetin new people?what do others think of this?I'm not gay.no nasty replies!

People from other cultures often act completely differently to us. To them it may have seemed like perfectly normal behaviour. You could try and explain your discomfort, or you could try and phase her out of your life, or try and give her another chance and get used to it.