i'm male 32..my sister is 4 years elder to me..small and loving family..middle class and decent in a beautiful village..father in respected job and society..my most loving sister did love marriage without our wish..12 years before..we all loved her so much..we didn't find that marriage suitable for her so we opposed..parents emotionally hurt..made them leave the village and move to bangalore..sister doing well now in god's grace..father and mother recovered and happy now..father started talking to her in recent years..mother still couldn't digest that and still angry with sister..mom doesn't talk to sister very well..kind of hi bye..i'm taking care of my parents very well and they are okay now..i'm in the US for last 7 years..life goes on too fast..i didn't talk to my sister for 12 years now..not a single word..kind of hated initially..then completely lost a felling for her..sister comes to our house once in few months..she asks family and relatives to convince me but i avoided everybody..kind of messy situation continuing for years..the only thing i couldn't accept is anyone hurting my mother and father who dedicated their life and gave pure love..i kind of feel that i should talk to her now..don't know..i have only 3 friends in my life..can't talk about this matter with them anymore..need fresh thoughts..friendly views..truth..if anybody care..thanks people..

i m sorry if u think i m saying sumthing dat u might not like but as u have demanded friendly view and true den here is wat i feel.........

it true she has hurt ur feelings, n i can understand dat u ppl opposed coz u loved her very much and desired a life partner u thought who could b better den her husband, but dear u urself have accepted dat she is happy n dat her life is going good, it means she has a loving n caring husband, a fruitful life, a husband who has given her such a life dat she is so happy to have him.

n if she is happy den her decision was not wrong, she is not suffering instead she is living just d way u might have desired or even better ..........n so i feel u sud let ur ego aside n go ahead n patch up wid her, life is too small for moments to b 2gether n too large for hatered

dont do a deed which might make u repent in future, n ll levae u sheding tears all ur life......

ur parents have forgiven her n i think even u have, but its just ur ego dat is stoping u, relations can never be healthy n by heart if u walk wid ego towards with him.......

hope u ll understand ur sister's feelings...........tc :-)